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New Blog: My Shakti Universe

Come on over to my new blog, MY SHAKTI UNIVERSE at to ask your wedding-related questions, atbp! 🙂  See you online!


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So long, farewell

As I type this, Jay is saying to me, “Sleep now… sleep now…”  I don’t even know if he’s fully awake, actually …

Anyways, we really have to bid this blog farewell.  We have absolutely no time to blog at the moment as LIFE is just kicking us in the a$$.  In a good way 🙂  but an ass-kicking is an ass-kicking and we come home fulfilled but tired.  Jay’s been good, he’s been playing basketball at least twice a week.  I, on the other hand, have resorted to calling my stretches after a shower “exercise.”  Not good.

I’m definitely still in the wedding loop in a way (contributing to the Philippine publication of Martha Stewart Weddings – think the maiden issue will come out in September) but again, we need to put this bad boy to rest already.  I’ve decided that any time I have on the side should be devoted writing of a more literary kind and that I really need to start reading more so I can get inspired to actually write.  It’s a vicious circle,  see?  And it doesn’t involve blogging anymore.  At least not right now.

Know this – it still puts a huge smile on our face to read all the incredible comments and links to our blog.  The huge outpouring of support, love and friendship that you all have had for Jay and I has been amazing and we are forever indebted to you.

Love, peace and light from Jay and I 🙂

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Supplier Rating: Michi Calica (entourage)

Michi was a delight to meet and work with in the beginning. She’s really one of the nicest people you’ll ever meet and she has a very impressive boutique in New Manila/Greenhills. My mom and I were impressed with her instantly and she really sells her products and services quite well. Unfortunately, she went on maternity leave and wasn’t as present as I would have liked her to be.

Out of 5 stars, I give her a 2.

Let’s distinguish between Michi and her staff. Her staff I give a -1 star rating. The only person who I felt was efficient and had it together at her store was her all-around cleaning lady/modista (Luz?) – the person who would pin together the loose parts or identify my desired hemline… the one who would offer me water or usher me to the changing area. She had it together. But I can’t tell you enough the amount of stress that her store managers put me through, especially as it came closer to their delivery dates. I actually saved all of my correspondence with them and looking back at it, I still can’t believe that dresses were switched, bridal records were mistaken (for example, someone from her shop texted me the night before the wedding if it was ok that my bridesmaid’s dress was delivered the following week because of car coding issues – this was the night before our wedding and just 1 day after I went to the shop with the bridesmaid to finalize everything… so I of course found out that they had the wrong record connected to the dress. I found this out cos I asked them to read me my groom’s name… “Brian” daw).

I’m lucky because my entourage looked fantastic in the different pink and red dresses:


And in the end, everything worked out, despite another major glitch which I don’t feel like airing out because there’s already enough negativity on personal blogs nowadays. But if someone were to ask me if I would go through the stress of dealing with her staff again, I would have to say that I certifiably would not.

Brides are just worried about their dresses and their entourage dresses – beyond the aesthetics (a given) are of course things like customer service, logistics and follow-thru. I didn’t get any of these from her staff and I wouldn’t want to wish that experience on any other brides out there.

I’m not discouraging anyone from seeing her gowns and designs. In fact, I am encouraging you all to see them as she has some fantastic gowns on display. But as soon as you start sensing that things are falling apart (complaints from your entourage about fittings, switched dresses), call Michi right away and nip it in the bud before it snowballs into something big come closer to your wedding day.

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Supplier Rating: Madge Lejano

Madge rocks. There’s no ifs or buts about it. She’s worth every centavo so if you’re not sure about booking her because she’s a bit more expensive than other artists out there, just look at it this way: You’re spending thousands to have your venue spruced up, for your dress and your music, for all the other details that many people may or may not even notice.  You shouldn’t skimp on your face because if you look bad, girl, people are going to know!  And yes, you gotta get your hair did, too.


I love how she trimmed and shaped my brows, and she was also the first one to show up on our wedding day so you don’t have to worry about her being late.


Steve (hair stylist) rocked as well – both of them are just the coolest and nicest professionals, and they’re really hilarious to be around.  I felt like me but a bit more heightened and dressed-up… but if you saw me walking down the street, you’d still know that it was me.


  My Maids of Honor looked fly, too:


Madge and Steve are awesome.  5 gold stars, for sure.

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Supplier Rating: Threelogy

Ummmmm…. let me think…. 5 STARS, baby!

I know, I know, we’ve been been MIA. Again. But there’s just no room for blogging at the moment! Too much work and on the weekends, we recover :). But somehow we’ll get thru all of our ratings, as promised.

We heart Threelogy (Jon, Bong and CJ). We are still getting texts and e-mails from friends and family near and far who really loved the onsite AVP that they put together for the reception. Here’s the opening capture from of the video:


We heard from different people who attended the past Wedding Expo that Threelogy showed our onsite at their booth, which is super cool ‘cos that means that they appreciated the video as well and recognize the fact that it captured Jay and I’s very loving, playful and hopeful relationship in three minutes.  That’s not an easy thing to do when you’re forced to do it right then and there, but they did it.

To see the video and read the uplifting and supportive comments from peeps everywhere who have seen the video, please click here.

All of our friends who are in the midst of wedding preps have booked Threelogy for their wedding celebrations 🙂 – yep, their work is that good!

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Post your reviews on

Hi, everyone!

I feel like, after having gone through our wedding preps last year, I’ve realized just how we soon to be wedded couples here in Manila are actually quite a very discerning bunch – perhaps one of the most discerning. I was hesitant to post this for fear of a self-promotion backlash, but then I was like, wait, our blog is called JayandCathy: The Wedding – and it’s the epitome of self-promotion (ahahahaha!!!). So I figure, why not just have you guys take a peek into one of my lastest work projects?

We want all of the discerning couples out there to be part of SPOT, a new community-driven website put out by the same people who have brought us the websites we all love to visit on a daily basis: Shop Crazy, PEP (showbiz gossip – you know you love that stuff!), Real Living Space blog, and the Female Network, to name a few.

Beyond the review-writing contest that we’re having until April 15 (and we use the word “reviews” and “writing” quite loosely, meaning if you have something to say and you want to say it in a sentence, then by all means, write it in just 1 sentence), I really want you all to test it out, play around the site, upload pictures and post reviews if you like. Although the site is live and it’s a public beta, we’re still a long way away from where we want it to be come our full launch. I’m sure by now, you’ve all gone to a lot of meetings with your suppliers at Starbucks, Coffee Bean or your preferred restaurant or bar. If you happen to have had good service (or not so good service…) then feel free to drop us a few lines at SPOT.  Let us know what you’re thinking.

You just look for the establishment in the search field, click on it when you find it (or ADD it if you don’t), and then you can post a review right then and there.

Of course, you have to register to post a review, but after that, do what you like, girlfriend (or boyfriend).

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We both know and agree that even though the Big Day will be…well, a big day, what comes after that is more important. Literally. After the reception where do we go? Where do we go ‘home’?

So Cathy and I have been looking around for a place we would like to call home. Staying with the parental units has always been an option open to us, but not an option we would like to take. Sure, we would save a lot of money. But nothing’s more important to a married couple (before the first-born that is) than having a place of their own that they can truly call their ‘home’. I think it’s such a psychological and emotional advantage to have a home to take care of as a married couple. It places responsibility and stability in the relationship. Plus it just great to come home to each other after a long day’s work.

We’ve looked around the Makati area, and found some great one to two bedrooms around Salcedo Village. We saw a total of about 10 units in two days. After all the ‘square meters’, ‘inches’, ‘feet’, ‘meters’, ‘association dues’, ‘down payment’, ‘amortization fees’, ‘selling price’, ‘capital gains’, ‘taxes’, ‘one bedroom’, ‘two bedroom’, ‘parking space’,’pool’, ‘gym’, ‘function room’, ’10a’, ’17b’, ‘1204’, and a bunch of other numbers, we found a place that we liked. Although we haven’t committed to it, at least we know what we’re looking for.

The whole process is such a great and rewarding experience. Once we stepped in a unit, all the ‘figures’ and ‘terms’ flew out the window, we were walking around talking about “oh, here’s where we can hang the photos!”, “here’s where we can put the book shelf!”, “i could cook breakfast here!”, “do you want to put the bed this way?”. It was great. Visualizing your home together.

Here’s some tips when you go home hunting (other than the obvious: know your budget, get a broker, location, location, location):

1. Bring measuring tape. Prior to that, measure any existing furniture you have that you’re thinking of bringing over to the new place.

2. Take notes of every unit, so you can sit back and look over everything at the end of the day. Note down measurements and pros and cons.

3. Keep an open mind. There won’t be a perfect unit. There will always be something about the place you don’t like. But if you feel good once you step into the place, then take note of that too. Intuition is powerful when home hunting. It will be your home so it should make you feel good.

We’re still in the process ourselves, so if any you have any tips or suggestions please let us know! Thanks!


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