When it comes to weddings, its a common perception that the ladies are more hands-on with the whole process then men.
But it doesn’t mean we, as men, can’t get involved. Cathy loves details, and I always try to help her out when she comes to me for my opinion. Granted, that every decision should be a united one, I believe its in the little details that really help in the planning and ultimately in the execution of the Big Day. I’m at work everyday, so it’s hard for me to be with her when she has to meet with suppliers and our planner. But make sure to ask your fiancee how she’s doing, or what’s going on. Give her your suggestions and your opinion, regardless if she’s already got one in mind. It shows her you care about the wedding, and more importantly, that you are really invested in this life long commitment. If you feel like she’s already in control of the planning, or she’s really stubborn in her decisions and you’re just trying to avoid confrontation, then you’re already starting off on the wrong foot. Let her know you’re there to help. At least let her know you want to be involved.
Plus, I believe it’s great practice for the future. Communication is key. You don’t want to come home and find a new thousand dollar rug, and wonder where you were in that decision process. If you’re willing to take the time to give your valuable opinion and suggestion, then your partner will know to come to you for help. And that’s what it’s all about.